5 Different Stress Identities In-Depth Review
When we don’t understand who we are BEING, we tend to look to the external world to fix the problem. That’s why most Stressed Out Successes turn to endless amounts of self-care, spending money on the latest tech gadgets (yes, how many of us have splurged as an, “I deserve this!” gift?), or even working longer hours to try and feel better.
But continuing to operate in this way is literally causing more pain. Because this is like going to your local pharmacy asking for aspirin to relieve the pain, when really you have a broken arm and all the aspirin is doing is making you feel better - temporarily.
That’s why in this episode I’m doing an in-depth review of the 5 different stress identities so we can create awareness of who we are BEING and start looking at our stress from an INTERNAL viewpoint instead of constantly looking outside of us to feel better.
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Letting Go Of CONTROL
Most Stressed Out Successes are in pain because they’re doing it all trying to control every single outcome.
And when you’re in the middle of every problem trying to handle it yourself, trust starts to break down, results aren’t created fast enough, and because you’re in the middle of everything you start to feel burned out yourself.
What most Stressed Out Successes don’t realize is that the reason why they feel the need to control isn’t so that everything goes right, the real reason is because they are protecting themselves from a FEELING.
From feeling bad, stressed, anxious, you name it.
But what if you knew how to feel and let it go with ease?
Would that change the way you live your life?
Could you give up your control… just a little?
We discuss this topic on Day 2 of the Stress Cleanse Challenge.
Email & Boundaries
If you struggle with NOT checking your email in the evenings, you’re not alone.
Most Stressed Out Successes have every intention to shut down by 8pm, but find themselves hearing or seeing the notification and before they know it they’re responding to the email on their phone.
What’s worse is they start feeling guilty for not being more present with their loved ones or if they’re single, they start resenting their work because all of their free time is consumed with thoughts about work!
Can you relate to this too?
In Day 3 of the Stress Cleanse Challenge we’re going to be discussing exactly this.
Those late night emails and how to set boundaries that actually WORK.
Believe it or not boundaries aren’t just a rule you set in your head.
In reality, boundaries are really about learning how to feel the intensity of an emotion.
Think about it.
If it didn’t feel so bad, was it really that urgent to check and send?
If that email didn’t rile you up so much, would you have written that email the way you did?
What this is truly about is how you FEEL. And the faster you realize how you feel and learn to be comfortable with certain levels of intensity - this is when you also start to have more fun with life.
Listen now. You don’t want to miss this one.
Leaders & Feelings
Most Executives I speak with want to roll their eyes the moment we talk about feelings.
And maybe the rolling of the eyes is a bit dramatic but what they really want to learn is the exact formula to not being affected by stressful events.
They want to know how to think on purpose, when to catch default thinking, and the exact order in which to apply the model.
But the irony is that stress is a feeling too.
It’s not the email, it’s not the co-worker, and it’s the economy.
Stress is an inside feeling that we feel because of our brain and the thoughts inside of them.
So if we’re already feeling a feeling then, how do we release the feeling and get to thought work?
In Day 4 of the Stress Cleanse Challenge we’re going to be discussing the importance of training yourself to keep your VIBE HIGH and the effect it has on every single thing you do.
Feelings dictate the trajectory of WHERE you want to go.
So let’s talk about our feelings.
Trust me. This one is good.
The Secret To Resolving The ROOT Of Stress
The reason why I don’t lay out an exit plan or even a self-care plan for my clients is because those things don’t actually RESOLVE the root of stress.
Because I have worked with clients who are IN the new job they thought would be better only to be met with another co-worker or company policy that is driving them crazy.
Can you relate to this too?
So then, what do we need to focus on if it’s not something OUTSIDE of us that needs to change?
I explain the three exact things you need in order to start feeling better today.
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